Finding the good

We need to catch people doing things right. What is right? Is it perfection? If you get 80% on a test – is that right? Is it good even though it is not perfect? What if the usual was 55%, but today the score improved to 70%; is that good? I think most would offer praise, which of course would be the right thing to do. If you were critical of the missed marks in these examples, you probably shouldn't be reading this blog.

The weird thing is that in the workplace, we do criticize in the gap between right and perfection. Instead of recognizing what is good, or right, we magnify the areas that are less than perfect. The reasoning: calling that which is not perfect, "good," is not doing my job. If my boss knew that I was providing positive recognition for this, that is less than perfect, he would think I don't understand the standard.

The reality: it will never be perfect!

If you recognize everything, or every part that is right (good), those that did the work will try harder than ever to bring the remaining parts to good, usually without you ever having to mention them. They will just want more of that praise and will work harder than ever to receive it.

Not being able to find something good says more about you the leader than it does about anyone else.

Finding the good

Intentional Influence

If leadership is "intentional influence," which it is, what separates great leadership from poor?

Influence, is often unintentional; setting a bad example. True leadership is intentional; done on purpose, not by accident. Therefore, there is no separation between good or poor within the word "intentional" in our definition.

It is the "influence" part where we find either remarkable or abysmal leadership, or varying degrees between.

Great leaders can describe their influence with these words: persuade, empower, inspire, encourage, win over, stimulate.

Poor leaders are identified by these descriptions: control, pressure, manipulate, power, command, and threaten.

If you were to reflect personally on your past 24 hours of leadership, which description most accurately matches your behaviour? Your influence impacts every person that you come in contact with; at work, at play, your family. It includes those around you that you never even speak to: at the grocery store, your neighbours or other drivers sharing the same road as you.

Someone is always watching what you are doing. Hopefully you are always showing the example that you intend.

Intentional Influence

How do YOU measure success?

What makes you successful? What I mean is, how do you measure success? At the end of the process, year, term, month, life, etc. how will you know if you have been successful. Think about that for a moment for the current year – how would you answer that question?

Not that it would ever be declared, but for some this is measured by just getting by, successfully navigating the week in order to get to the weekend, keeping the job, being able to retire, or just actually waking up in the morning. Posing this question to others might bring the answer that they think everyone wants to hear; good marks, good results, financial independence, but they have not put a great deal of thought into it and really don't own the goal.

I suppose what I am really talking about is goal / objective setting. When traveling, a destination is set and then the path to arrive at that destination is determined. This seems obvious if you are traveling, yet very few people actually do this in life. Why? I think we tend to make it too complicated. I am not one for sitting down to plan and write out my life goals – short, mid and long term – only to forget about it and only refer back to it when I read or hear someone say that I should have planned goals. I do have these, on paper and I know where they are – but I have not looked at them for well over a year.

Those who know what success looks like, for them, form a picture in their mind's eye of what that success looks like. When asked, they communicate with an "it looks like" phrase that anyone can picture as explained to them.

"Every leader in my organization will have identified and developed talent throughout their team, creating multiple successors for every management position in their business unit."

"We will become a people factory for the rest of the organization – building capacity among our team – measuring ourselves by the number of successful candidates we have developed and promoted."

"Obtain a beautiful home with a picturesque view, which I can go outside and hear nothing but solitude – the birds, and the wind in the trees."

Can you see, in your mind's eye, those pictures of success?

How do YOU measure success?